You should see the abuse I’ve taken via pm about this site. Funny part is, none of it came from Lotus
About the PMs, dear. I was an admin at Valhalla from the day it opened until the day it vaped. One the day it vaped I had about 2,600 PMs in my inbox. I'd actually read and answered maybe two dozen of them in all that time. The rest I never even viewed for the most part.
It was easier that way rather than get caught up in other people's long trolls and whatnot, because that's always, always, aways (mostly) what "PMs" are about ultimately.
There are exceptions, of course. You being a woman you naturally are prone to gossipy yakking, and many of us have developed offline relationships with each other, so PMs, of course, are a natural fit for communications.
But the ones you know jjust from looking at the header are just some asshole whining about shit? Don't even open them, Your Grace. Don't even bother reading them. It's easier that way, and after a time people will get the message that trying to advance their trolls by PMing you will get them nowhere.